A couple weeks ago life hit me! I was working so hard, thinking I was doing everything I possibly could, but let me give you a visual of how it actually went.. It was like sprinting a marathon, moving as fast as your legs could possibly go, but then… you trip, fall, and roll down a mountain into a lake and hit rock bottom, yep.. that good. I was so disappointed in myself, I knew that my very best was not my actual, very best.
Let me paint you a picture, if you’re a runner, your very best run ever, may be a 5 minute mile, but try doing that after 6 bowls of cereal and 3 brownies… Your best time may turn into a 10 minute run and a 15 minute walk! Your VERY best, VARIES! Sometimes, we are at the top of our game, feeling on top of the world, and sometimes, we feel like our best just isn’t good enough. Give yourself a break and remember that we aren’t going to meet our highest expectations every time. Here are my tips when you feel like Your Best Isn’t Good Enough.
1. Focus on YOU! Sometimes I will look at social media and compare my life to the fitness model and feel horrible about myself, or I’ll see people at fashion week wearing the best clothes, getting invited to major events and I’m over here wearing a dad shirt and headed to target! We can’t run faster than our legs will carry us, so don’t worry about what is happening around you. Focus on you! Remember all the good that you are doing! Maybe you couldn’t complete your laundry list of things to do because you were talking to your sister for 3 hours when she needed you. Maybe you dedicated your time where you really felt like it was needed, or maybe you just can’t handle it today! Maybe the thought of even getting out of bed is too much for you today, that is okay. Today, maybe your VERY best is taking a shower and getting back in bed. Going to brunch with the girls is not in the cards for you today and that’s OKAY! Listen to your body, be selfish with your time sometimes, and take care of yourself.
2. Give each other a break: It is so hard when we have just failed at something, to not be disappointed in ourselves! Then it gets even worse when we start to think about what other people will think! No one wants to be seen while on the spiral downward. “No one likes to fail. And we particularly don’t like it when others—especially those we love—see us fail. We all want to be respected and esteemed. We want to be champions. But we mortals do not become champions without effort and discipline or without making mistakes.” -Uchtdorf. Give yourself a break and give other people a break because at the end of the day, no matter what you accomplished, that was your Very Best for that day.
3. Focus on The Progress: Doing your best takes a lot of time and practice. Maybe your healthiest you was last summer, before you had a baby and you want to get back to your fitness goals! It’s going to take some time to get to where you were last summer! It may be a long road ahead of you, tons of gym days and a lot of days where you look back and see that nothing has changed! That’s okay! It’s the baby steps! Pay attention to those things because that is what is going to keep you moving forward. It’s okay if you didn’t make it to the gym, but you put the new gym clothes on! That’s a step! That’s a great step! And for that day, it is your VERY Best! Keep moving forward and focus on the progress as you take those baby steps.
4. You are not your failures: Have you ever tried something new and failed miserably at it? How about trying something you’ve done a thousand times perfectly, failing on the 1,001st time? Or failing over and over and over? It is extremely discouraging, embarrassing, and plain hard! Maybe you tried a new recipe and dinner was an absolute flop! Are you never making dinner again? No! It’s okay to have failures, does it mean you didn’t try? No. Does it mean you didn’t do your very best? No! Sometimes are very best is picking ourselves back up and trying again. “Our destiny is not determined by the number of times we stumble but by the number of times we rise up, dust ourselves off, and move forward.” -Uchtdorf. You are not your failures, your are the compilations of what those failures have taught you, and how you decide to move forward. Pick yourself up and try.
I think we need to redefine the phrase “Do your Very Best!”, to “Do your VARY Best,” because your very best will always vary. As we focus on the good that we are doing, remind ourselves of the progress we are making, give ourselves and each other a break, we will find more happiness as we create the lives we are pushing so hard everyday to live. If you need someone to remind you just how amazing you are, if you need a gym buddy, if you need someone to tell how to get to the next step, or someone to walk along this journey with, call me. I may not have all the answers, but I definitely have a ton of fails and if nothing else I will do my best to relate and listen. Your VARY Best is good enough, YOU are good enough, so keep trying.
Bri & Britt
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