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We are traveling best friends, who want to share our thoughts and lessons learned through our experiences. In hopes that you will get a good laugh, feel inspired, motivated, uplifted! Sorry for how terribly awkward we are. 

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Pressure of Perfection and The Problems That Creates


Our lives are perfect…if you don’t believe us just take a look at our Instagram’s. Right?? WRONG! Unfortunately many of you see our lives as perfect because that is what we (and everyone) share with the world. The good, exciting moments and the great hair days! Spoiler alert: There are far more days you don’t see that include tears, business stresses, and 5th day dry-shampoo fails! Yet, somedays we still look around Instagram and feel like we are failing because “so and so” has the perfect life, got engaged, and has a clean house. So how do we get to a place where we can be authentic with our social media’s and stop comparing our lives to the image of another?Sharing our trials and struggles with the world is not easy! And in my opinion…we shouldn’t feel any pressure to do it if we don’t want to! If sharing your marital struggles or body image issues on Instagram is something that will help you heal, then by all means…share away! But if it is going to give you more anxiety and make you feel uncomfortable. DON’T! Keep sharing your best photos with funny captions!  Whatever you decide to do…we want to share a few of our tips (learned from personal experience) to avoid becoming discouraged when everyone else’s lives seem more appealing than your own!Take a break: On some of my worst days, scrolling through Instagram and seeing other peoples “perfect lives” only makes mine feel worse. Taking a social media break has been the best thing for me during my down days. Delete the app, log out, or just use your self-control to stay away for a while. That might be an hour, a day, or a year! Look out for yourself and never let the pressure of posting or commenting on Instagram become more important than your well-being! Comparing your situation to other peoples won’t improve your own.

Focus on your good: We all have hard things, bad days, and big life disappointments. But I am convinced we all have much more good in our lives than bad; even if it doesn’t feel that way some days! As I have spent days comparing on social media, those good things in my life feel more and more pressure to hide. When this happens I have to take a step back. I have this little journal I carry around…my “gratitude journal.” I know it sounds cliché and a little lame, but I’m telling you, it’s a game changer! When my news feed seems to be filled with perfection and I catch myself feeling crappy, I pull out that journal and write as many things as I can that are amazing in my life. As I shift my focus from pity party to gratitude hour, my entire attitude changes! Your “journal” can be a  note on your phone, a list in your head, or a physical pad of paper you carry around…but try it! Take a look at the photos you post. Yeah, they may not contain the “perfect” life you are portraying, but they were moments, experiences, memories, and destinations that someone else is dying for. Focus on the good and you’ll find it everywhere!


#selflovejourney: As many of you know, we started a hair extension company, BB Hair, based solely on confidence and self-love. We believe there is nothing more important and life changing than #alittleaddedconfidence! We understand completely that self-love is a rollercoaster and a journey! Some days I feel like I can take on the world and other days I cry in my bathroom and refuse to go outside. Trust me…we get it! But on those days when you do feel unstoppable, share your journey with someone else! This can be a post on Instagram, a conversation with a friend, or a letter to your neighbor. However you do it, just do it. Sharing our struggles and our journey to confidence with others is what builds relationships and usually ends with them sharing in return. The more you do this and the more people you help, the more you realize that nobody’s life is perfect. 10, 10K, or 10M followers, rich, poor, or anywhere in between…NOBODY IS PERFECT and everyone is on their own, rocky #selflovejourney.



Don’t let a like dictate your day: Listen up, Instagram is a game that is impossible to understand. Some days you’ll get 2000 likes and some days you’ll get 200. I know that for me, that is really hard some days. But why?! Why do we let ‘likes’ control our emotions? There is nothing and I mean nothing about the number under your photo that decides your worth. You are beautiful, you are smart, amazing, talented, a good mom, and a dang good cook! Just because 90% of your audience didn’t see and like your Instagram photo because the algorithm decided to hate you today, does not mean you are not amazing. This is not an easy one and you and I will be working on it together!


Put your health as top priority: Whether we like to admit it or not, mental health is on the decline as social media is on the rise. The cases of anxiety, depression, eating disorders, and many more are sky rocketing. Whatever your role in social media is; whether it is your full-time job, hobby, daily mind-escape, or dating platform, if it is hurting your health…burry it! Take care of yourself, get help, talk to a friend or talk to me. We need to put ourselves first in this social media world. If you need someone to talk to, I am your girl!


I am the first to admit that social media is an amazing place to be creative, share your passions, and carry out business. However, I am also the first to admit that it can be hard. As you exit out of this article and go back to your scrolling on Facebook or your browsing on Instagram, just remember… 9 times out of 10, it’s not real. There is good, bad, and hard in each of our lives. For me, I choose to share the good. And my life IS good, but it’s not perfect! Never let the image of another take away from the joy of your life. You are amazing, beautiful, smart, and you’ve got a dang bright future!


xoxo

Bri & Britt