I know we all hop out of bed every morning, look in the mirror and say “WOW I am so beautiful, so smart, and so successful!!! Today is going to be my day!” And then we jump on our unicorns, pick up our free Starbucks and go hang out with our wife Kim Kardashian, right? Okay unless you are Kanye, that may be a bit of a stretch for most of us…myself included. But WHY!? That is exactly what we should be doing because it is so true! We are amazing! We all have continuous conversations with ourselves running through our heads every single day. We process about 50,000 thoughts a day, and it is believed over half of them are negative….that is 25,000+ negative thoughts a day!! WHY??
We believe what we tell ourselves. I am such a believer in manifestation. I am not going to get into the details of it, but basically, you state your truth (what you want) to the “universe” (God, nature, energy) and the universe gives it back. If I truly believe I will make 1 million dollars this year and have no doubts running through my mind, I WILL make a million dollars. The problem is, those doubts always get in our way and we allow them to win! We are the only ones holding ourselves back from greatness! Well, the same goes for what we tell ourselves and our “universe” about our bodies, our looks, our personalities, or our successes...it soon becomes our reality.
Be honest with me here. In the last week how many times have you looked in the mirror and said “ew”, “I am so fat”, “I am ugly”, “I am a failure”, or something else along those terrible lines? It literally hurts me to even type that out, because I would hate to hear any of you say those horrible things about yourselves…you are so beautiful and I can see that. Yet, I am guilty of manifesting several of those ugly things listed above, daily.
“If we treated our friends the way we treat ourselves, we wouldn’t have any.”
Unfortunately, it’s true. We are our own worst critic and when we constantly tell ourselves negative things, we begin believe them. If we are always telling ourselves how “fat” we are, pretty soon we will look in the mirror and see 10 extra pounds or 3 extra chins that may not really be there. Our minds can literally change the way we see things...Minds are so powerful. I know everyone says this, but it is so true. It is when our minds start to distort our vision that anxiety, depression, and other mental disorders have room to enter. So how do we stop it?
Change the way you talk. It is okay to see things you want to improve in yourself and work on, but be careful how you manifest it. Instead of saying “I am so fat, I hate my body,” try saying “I am not quite where I want to be, but I am going to work hard to get there so I can be more confident in my own skin.” It is so amazing how simply changing the way we say things can change our entire mindset and attitude.
Replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. Obviously, our ultimate goal is to reach a place where we never have negative thoughts, but these habits take a while to change. So in the meantime, be conscious and when a negative thought does slip in, replace it immediately! This will help you set your mind on the right path! Positive and negative cannot fill our minds at the same time. It is physically impossible. Therefore, the more often we fill our minds with positive thoughts, the less time we have to think about the false negative beliefs we create.
Practice positive self-talk. I know…I’m sorry. People have been telling you since the invention of mirrors themselves, to stand in front of one and repeat affirmations over and over until you believe them. I always thought it was a load of crap too. When we were in Bali, I starting feeling bad about myself…because I was letting my mind control my truth. So I set a goal. Every morning Bri and I would wake up, tell each other 3 things we loved about ourselves (they had to be genuine), what was good about the day, and then we would each state an affirmation in the mirror. And to my skeptics amazement….it worked!!! It was so crazy how fast I started feeling better about myself. I challenge you to try this out for a week. It just takes a minute and may feel a bit awkward at first, but if you really go for it, I promise it will start to change you!
You know the old saying your mom used to tell you when you were fighting with your siblings...”if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all.” It was true then and it’s true now for you! If you don’t have anything nice to say to yourself, then stay quiet. It is honestly heartbreaking. If you stand in a women’s bathroom for a few minutes and watch as people come to the mirror, 9 times out of 10 they either make a cringed face, a horrible comment about themselves, or immediately look away ashamed. This one takes so much practice and I am still working on it daily, but when you look in a mirror be very conscious of what you say. Don’t say ugh or ew or any other horrible comment. Fighting this urge will help you be aware of your self-talk and create a better relationship with yourself. If you wouldn’t say it to your best friend, don’t say it to yourself.
Don’t be ashamed to admit you are beautiful. You are a beautiful creation full of purpose, love, and beauty. Tell yourself that and allow yourself to see it. As my boyfriends One Direction would say “everyone else in the room can see it, everyone else but you. …if only you could see what I can see you’d understand…You don’t know you’re beautiful!” So watch your mouth. Be careful what you say, because for good or for bad, you’ll believe it! Create a reality where you can love you! You are so amazing! And if you ever need someone to help you realize or remember just how beautiful you are, let me know. I could go on for days!
Bri & Britt