Thailand! So you may have noticed that we have been in Thailand! We started our adventure in Phuket Thailand, home of some amazing beaches, the famous big buddha, and really really big cockroaches! We just got to Chiangmai and it has been such a great experience for us so far! We are staying in the beautiful De Lanna Chiangmai Hotel and we have been loving it- amazing food, amazing pool, and amazing staff! It's also in the perfect location. We are right next to stunning temples and the Sunday Night Market that we just got back from! Now let's talk about the real stuff!
Listen, I realize you’re all probably much better at resolutions than I am. But if you happen to be anything like me, you’ve completely forgotten about the majority your New Year’s resolutions by now and somehow failed at the rest. Every year when January 1st rolls around, I tell myself, “This year will be different, this year I’m going to succeed at all my goals.” However, every year it’s not long until life happens and that old scratch paper with scribbles of our envisioned perfect lives get lost with the rest of our Reese’s Egg wrappers and diet Coke bottles.
This year, I knew something needed to change. because just like Hannah Montana says…You can change your hair, and you can change your clothes, you can change your mind, that's just the way it goes. Anyways, this year I decided to start setting new goals, resolutions, and bucket lists at the beginning of each month. It helps me to stay motivated and makes me reevaluate how I am doing. Each month brings new needs, life changes, and motivations. The goals I set for March are most definitely going to be very different from the ones I set in November. You change, your goals should be able to as well.
You’ve heard it a million times before…the 5 magical steps to setting great goals. News flash! There is a reason you’ve heard it so much. It’s important and it works. Here is how I took these generalized tips and made them fit into my life just like that Reese’s I mentioned fits in my mouth.
Be Realistic With Yourself: When I would set New Year’s resolutions it would go something like this, “Go to the gym 6 days a week for 3 hours each. Eat only fruit and vegetables. Never say anything mean about anyone. Read a book a week. And climb Everest by June.” I knew very well I would never accomplish all of these dreams, but the idea sounded great! So I wrote it down in my multicolored gel pens, (because that makes everything more exciting of course), and went on with my life. Don’t set goals that are not realistic, it will just discourage you and make you feel defeated. For example, maybe you want to travel. It may not be realistic for you to travel to Paris by summer, instead maybe you could set a goal to take a road trip to St. George with your best friend by then!!
Be Specific: When you set your goals, you need to be very specific about what it is you want and what you’re going to do to get there. Saying you want to travel is awesome! But where do you want to travel? How soon are you going to do it? How are you going to get the money to do it? When you are specific about your goals, it makes them much easier to measure and more likely to happen. Along with my goals each month, I also make “bucket lists” which, like goals, need to be specific. You want to skydive? Where do you want to do it? Utah, Paris, Hawaii? Daydream. Write down all the details. Get excited! If you aren’t specific, you won’t have an end point and I promise you will never be happy with the results.
Be Flexible: Circumstances are always changing, so should your goals. Don’t feel bad if you have to cut down, change, or remove items. Always keep your priorities straight and do what is best for you! The purpose of a goal is to help keep you motivated and constantly better yourself. If you feel depressed and anxious looking at your list, you’re doing it wrong. Change is good. Be willing to scribble out goal number 5, grab a new gel pen, and make the tweaks you need to fit your changing life.
Don’t Overwhelm Yourself: Decide on 4 or 5 solid goals that you are excited about and focus your energy there. I used to write a list of goals that was 73 lines long and wouldn’t stop writing until every good intension was out of my brain and on the paper. Ask me how successful I was; I wasn’t at all. There is no possible way that our brains can focus on all of these items and master them all. Unless of course, you are way better than me. In which case please message me your tips. Sticking with a few really solid goals will help you focus and succeed without getting overwhelmed.
Don’t Get Discouraged: Don’t beat yourself up if you miss a day at the gym or use a non-organic vegetable in your casserole. We are imperfect beings and I promise you will slip up on your goals occasionally. It’s okay! Let yourself learn from your mistakes and enjoy the ride of ups and downs. Don’t let yourself to feel bad and give up. Reevaluate, pick up, and try again. This is not a race to perfection, it is a constant journey. Or in the words of the great Miley Cyrus again, it’s all about the climb!!
Support yourself and support everyone around you. We are all on the same journey of trying to better ourselves and could all use encouragement along the bumpy path.
Lastly, don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. If I did that, I’d be in a constant state of embarrassment! Set goals for you, not for anyone else. In the past it was almost like I was trying to impress whoever might come across my journal of goals. I was writing things I didn’t really care about, just because they looked good on this private resume. Change you, for you!! Don’t listen to anyone but yourself when you are chasing your dreams.
Try this method of writing monthly goals with me. I know you will be much more successful at reaching your goals than you have been with that list you wrote 3 months ago and forgot about until now. Good luck and just know, you’ve got all my support in you!